The genius of communication.

 How do they become?

Effective communication fragment Steve Nakamoto books. The genius of communication. How do they become? - M .: Peter, 2010

Effective communication skills distinguish man successful. Not able to communicate doomed to lack of friends, clients and subordinates!

Learn. Expand the scope of the dialogue.

That's what learning: you suddenly realize what they knew all my life, but in a new way.

Learn: 1. to master skills through serious study and orderly practice. 2. acquire the knowledge, attitudes, skills, and strategies through research, training, experience, which leads to a stable, measurable and significant changes modus operandi. 3. As is understood in this book - to become more flexible and effective, regardless of the situation due to the assimilation of different styles of communication.

You are one step closer to being open to a winner!

Limited communication skills limit the size of your audience and the variety of situations in which you may be successful. One of your primary goals as a future genius of communication - to expand its capacity by examining a variety of new ways to communicate with others. So you are ready to successful interaction with any person with whom will face in their personal or professional life.

The two-hour finale of the fifth and most successful season of the popular music show "American Idol" has collected more than 200 million viewers from around the world. Ultimately, Taylor Hicks, 29-year-old singer in the style of soul (southern rhythm and blues) from Alabama won a decisive victory over Katharine McGhee California and became crowned American Idol the year.

Although the show has repeatedly been criticized for being too hype and called the karaoke contest, during the years of its existence, it has become much more exciting and stylistically diverse. The individual steps competitions were devoted to music in styles mouton, rock, Broadway, big band, and country, in order to demonstrate the versatility and talent of each participant. Those who showed himself to be too weak in a particular genre, the judge excluded from the competition.

The winner of "American Idol" season five was a man who won the sympathy of 63 million viewers (the number of votes received is not even a US president!), According to the calculations carried out in the last week of the contest. Taylor Hicks achieved this thanks to a wonderful combination of musical talent, charisma and talent to attract the audience, the ability to produce the effect of personal charm - qualities that he displayed throughout the many weeks of the song contest.

Engage you in the show "American Idol" or simply talking with people, the ability to communicate confidently in a variety of styles to attract you to a wider audience. Mastering this book new styles of interaction with people, you will learn to gain the attention of an increasing number of people that will make you feel comfortable in a variety of situations.

Challenge yourself - leave outside the comfort zone

The gap between your current ability to perform certain tasks, and your performance in the future can be overcome through training. If you are determined to achieve mastery, put new goals, have fun with the process and, in the end, you will achieve greater success in any field, what would choose.

To become a genius of communication, it is necessary to achieve excellence in many fields. As I mentioned above, one of the most important tasks - to develop the flexibility to communicate effectively in a variety of situations. Unfortunately, most of us owns a limited set of communication styles, so is able to interact well with certain people only.

When I started a tour guide, I had to learn to communicate effectively with people of various social status and age groups. Often I led a group of tourists from the UK, Australia, South Africa, Canada and Israel. In addition, I have worked with the Americans, among whom were students, alumni, religious, pensioners and businessmen.

I tried to make a good impression on tourists, and each group put me in front of a new, unique challenge. For example, the students had to "be cool and whip around," and businessmen needed a professional who knows how to clearly express. Seniors waiting for me to mature, and foreigners were eager that I as fiercely as they admired the beauty of America.

Once a group of the faithful from Los Angeles, complained to me of the tour company that I worked with them, he showed his inappropriate sense of humor, and I almost got fired. Another time, tourists from Texas San Antonio almost gave me the traditional tip, as felt that I treated them completely disregard. In both cases I worked with these people is not very high quality, primarily because of their reaction to me was immediately negative, which, frankly, I'm hurt. But I learned a lot, hitting the sights of his critics, especially about how to constantly control their own actions and to expand the horizons of communication.

Now the progress that I have made over the years ekskursovodcheskoy practice helped me to become more effective in their professional activities as an author and speaker in the personal communication. This also contributed to the willingness to expand the comfort zone and to tolerate short-lived pain with the prospect of eventually achieve success.

Expand the scope of communication

Understand that to make significant progress can not be a simple and fast way. To expand its capabilities, you have to set such tasks, which initially seems uncomfortable.

The following tips will help you to expand the range of communication styles, so that you're ready for any situation that may confront you life.

Meet often with different people

Practice the art of communication, tying a conversation with different people. Let your interlocutor will be the cashier at the supermarket, people from the queue in the bank, waiting for admission to your doctor, a neighbor, walk the dog. How about to become a regular at the cafe, to join the club of readers to visit a group tour of the sights of the city or go on a training course? A very pleasant social experience!

Optimally, meet people of all ages, from children to pensioners, as well as cultures with compatriots, immigrants and tourists from other countries. The idea is that you get more experience of communicating in many different styles and train their ability to speak, to overcome embarrassment and strengthen confidence.

Talk less, listen more

Perhaps the most simple advice. Easily move the focus of attention from himself to another person significantly improve your effectiveness in communicating. As long as you practice this skill, you are likely to learn how to better listen to and capture the most subtle nuances of the manner of communication of your interlocutors.

If you are shy by nature, say any more

Shyness - this is one of those tests that you have to grin and bear constantly overcome. We all find ourselves in the situation and environment in which we are not very comfortable, and the ability to speak does not come by itself. But when shyness becomes a standard style of your communication with people, it severely limits the quality and quantity of your relationships. Newcomers to the successful communication I advise to enter into short-lived or non-committal conversation. Talk about simple topics that are close to each. For example, ask: "Do you often find yourself in traffic jams on the way to work", "What do you think, why now this strange weather?", "What do you think about these outrageous prices for gasoline?" Say a few words, and let the opportunity to speak to his companion.

Adjust the speed and volume to your speech produces a variety of effects.

There are times when you need to be selective in what you say and / or change the speed and volume of your monologue. For example, telling a story, it is important to overlook insignificant details, to get to the bottom before the listeners' attention will be weakened. The voice must be energetic and share your excitement to show others that you are genuinely excited by what you are talking about. On the other hand, sometimes you need to slow down to make contact with those who by nature prefers to speak more slowly. Furthermore, it should change the voice volume and rate of speech, to avoid monotony.

Develop communication skills and self-confidence, telling jokes

You can learn how to tell jokes - this is an additional way to improve your communication skills. Telling jokes, you will learn how to present the story quickly, vividly describe the situation with equanimity and speak the culmination. Couple things to keep in mind: first, the content of your jokes should be no insult; Secondly, we should not laugh at his own joke, as long as you did not finish it until the end. You can also buy a DVD with performances of your favorite comedian, to see how telling jokes and funny stories professionals, keeping the audience's attention. Again and again, looking record, you'll notice a number of useful techniques and be able to develop your own style of narration.

Practice in a more formal speeches

When I was 10 years old, my family moved to Palos Verdes, Los Angeles suburb, home to upper middle class. I immediately noticed how well the kids there said. I remember one night I was confronted with his classmate in places-rated restaurant, and marveled at how smoothly and without hesitation my age introduced me to his parents. He said, "Mom and Dad, I want to introduce you to my friend Steve Nakamoto. Steve and I are learning in one class. Steve, this is my mom and dad. " Improving your communication skills in a more formal situations, you will master the communication style that will help you out in different social situations, giving you greater confidence and efficiency.

Develop and informal style of communication

Make sure you do not leave people indifferent and casual conversation. Twenties guys with whom I play volleyball on the beach, just greet me: "Wow, dude" style of energetic and frivolous talk. They talk and constantly moving. And usually they try to make you laugh or smile. This is a good way of conversation, when every day you need to visit hundreds of places and interact with many people.

Study and emulate the style of others

The next time you watch a television talk show, note how popular hosts communicate with an audience. Have you watched the Gem Leno, Oprah Winfrey, David Letterman, Ellen Lee DeGeneres or Mantel Williams, notice their facial expression, gestures, tone of voice changes, as well as the way to listen, ask questions, compliment and tell stories. You will be able to accelerate its growth, watching and learning from valuable skills in these geniuses of communication.

If you want to increase your capabilities go beyond their comfort zone to expand as a result of it and make a big step in the learning process. To start, pay attention to details and think over how you can improve your style of communication. Then set ourselves the task, which will be a test for you in that direction. The knowledge, however extensive they may be, they are of little use if you do not immediately apply them in practice.

Perform the task on the day!

From the above tips to choose one, which you can easily follow today. Now find another and plan to put it into practice tomorrow. After day after day through a list of tips and put yourself one task per day.

At the end of each day, reflect on the fact that you have reached. What did you learn during practice? How can you be proud? Do not come if you can think of other ideas that would help you expand your social circle? If so, give yourself a special task to test them in practice in the next few days. Continue this cycle of continuous self-improvement with the conviction that in front of you waiting for a generous reward.

Conclusion

Remember, to say, as a genius of communication in the broadest sense, you have to learn, as a genius of communication. To do this, you need to follow one simple rule: Expand your social circle. Once you realize the importance of this essential component of successful communication, you will only have to pick up new ideas, creative approach to business, and regularly make sure in this thought until until it becomes familiar to you. If you're really in love with the process, you can easily achieve victory!